Embracing The Unknown

I found myself contemplating the value of embracing the unknown pertaining to people, situations and things. This desire to know more than what is being shared or communicated with me is slowly, but surely becoming an evaporating preoccupation. Information that isn’t willingly or initially offered is probably either, none of my business, worth waiting for – minus the probing, or certified mental trash, namely stress. Embracing the unknown in all of these cases is simply choosing peace of mind over otherwise and recognizing such moments as opportunities for introspection.

Digging for explanations, confirmations,  or reasons for why someone may have said what they said, did what they did, or have made a certain decision is senseless when someone isn’t ready or willing to disclose whatever it is that we seek to know.  How we respond to this is indeed something within our control. It is very possible to be our own intervention, and to stop ourselves from diving, head first into our own self-conjured pool of assumptions or worry, due to perpetual, unsuccessful efforts in trying to get someone to “meet us halfway” to work things out.

My struggle is with the high degree of hope I usually have for cooperation and a willingness in the other person to be just as open to communicate with me, for the sake of working through or getting past a challenging time BEFORE it becomes evident that true communication is but a hopeful figment of my imagination. I’m naturally inclined to ask as many questions as I need and to  listen in order to reach a place of resolve and peace, and never with deliberate intent to offend, annoy or burden. Sometimes, I don’t realize that I’m contributing to someone’s stress with my need to know or understand something, and so I’m a work in progress in this regard.  I need not pressure anyone for anything they are simply unwilling to give – PERIOD.

Embracing the unknown is not giving up or caring less, it is immediately sensing  the mind wreckage waiting to swallow us whole, upon worrying and wondering too much and recognizing this in time to make a sharp turn in the opposite direction, towards something more open, willing and welcome – ourselves, including others perhaps. To embrace the unknown is to emerge from the darkness of burdensome worry and to enter the light of good energy, thoughts, actions and productivity.

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8 thoughts on “Embracing The Unknown

  1. When you find the solution to that problem of needing to know please let me know because I struggle with the same thing. It keeps you bound. Thanks for sharing! Now I know I’m not the only one.

    • My solution, a solution in progress is to conscientiously CREATE A HABIT of catching myself dead in my tracks when I feel myself becoming increasingly worried to point of questioning, and digging for more “answers” in a place where “more” is not willingly shared.

  2. You are just a top shelf blogger. Your words have a way of climbing inside a person. I can say this with complete certainty. The world is a better, kinder, more gentler place because you are in it. I hope everything is ok? Some how I never quite know if your blogs are just artistic, or if you are writing about your own life? I know, I know, do not write it, it will be revealed in time.

    • Wow, these words warm me and inspire me fully, they are appreciated completely. Its because of someone like you, that someone like me will commit myself and work even harder to continue writing and expressing myself. Everything that I write is from my life experience, fiction hasn’t quite seeped into my bones, and so I haven’t written it, but anything is possible and the distinction would be so clear.

  3. I know exactly what you mean. I always have to work through everything and find my way through. That means going over and over it.

    The hard thing is, of course, you can’t get into their head. So you kind of ‘make up’ the solution. It is a complete waste of time – you’re right. But if you’re a feeling person then I think it’s very difficult to change. I wish you every success though!!!

    • Yes, if there is any care involved, its supremely difficult to sever ourselves from wanting to know something, but I’ve been around folks who’ve done it, so it’s possible. Silencing the craving to know is nothing short of getting into our OWN heads, instead of burdening someone else’s.

  4. I am so glad you shared this….I recently met a beautiful youg Lady and she is epitomy of what you are speaking about. I mean, she loves to draw every bit of juice out of any topic and dicussion….. I have spent hours on the phone with her talikng about eveything from religion, relationships, womans movements,the sun, moon, stars….You name it… we (wil) discuss it. I was just thanking her last night for literally opening up my intellectual cells to a place they haven’t been in a very long time. Most often, people call it NAGGING but it’s actually a great mechanism (if allowed) to creating great friendships and more importantly….Realtionships! The unknown needs to be explored and it is better explored with some one who genuinely CARES enough to explore it with you……..Keep up the good work Miss Ebony, continue to let your mind soar and keep putting the pen to the pad….I will definitely keep reading what you have to say because it is relevant.

    • aaaaaaaaaaaaaahmazing! Jimmy Wells! Thank you with every ounce of gratitude and humility in me! It would be an honor to have you be a part of the community here, everyone’s insight has been so helpful and encouraging.

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